Once you’ve sorted this out, yes, let your friends know you’re upset. However, choose your best friend and talk to each other face to face. Again, talk and write, if possible. “I am upset about the funeral. It’s too bad. And on top of that, no one called me or checked. I’m sad above all sad.” If friends forget/lose track, then they will probably do anything they can to see you complete.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2021/07/24/carolyn-hax-best-friends-funeral-check-in-hurt-feelings/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=wp_lifestyle | Carolyn Hax: In grief, ‘What are friends for?’ is not rhetorical