Carolyn Hax: House cleaner hired by one spouse stresses out the other

Pricey Carolyn: A number of months in the past, my spouse knowledgeable me she wished to rent a home cleaner, saying she was bored with the mess, bored with feeling overworked and bored with preventing with me about chore division. Per week later, a maid arrived at our home. I discover it extremely anxious. I fear that the maids aren’t cautious with our issues, that they could peek at our non-public paperwork, and that each one in all this can be a ridiculous expense ($300 a month!) that might higher go elsewhere, although my spouse mentioned that is what she wished to spend her complete annual increase on. When the maids go away, I’m fried, however I admit that my spouse does appear a lot happier. I nonetheless want she may simply chill out and decrease her requirements a bit, however … am I the one who has to recover from this?